Maybe Your Wife Doesn’t Submit because She Doesn’t trust You To Lead

I often hear men quoting Ephesians 5:22, that says for wives to submit themselves unto their husbands while forgetting to read verse 25. Ephesians 5:25 says for husbands to love their wives. In order for the wife to submit to the husband she must feel as though she is submitting simply out of love and not because she was dictated to do so.

When an outsider is looking in on a Christian marriage, they should see a similarity between the way the husband loves his wife and the way Christ loves the church. In 1 Corithians 13, the bible actually breaks down how we should love, amongst other things love is patient, love is kind, not self-seeking, keeps no record of wrong. How many men are really loving their wives to this degree?

I often hear men claiming to be the “head of their household”, but refuse to work while their wives do work and provide for the family. This same man will later wonder why the wife does not respect him and refuse to submit. Is it possible that the woman refuses to submit because she has assumed the roles and responsibilities of the man in the household and it becomes an insult to the woman for the man to claim a title that he has not yet earned?

If we go back to Genesis in the bible where Adam was given dominion over the garden of Eden and headship over his wife, the bible says that Eve was deceived but Adam sinned. Adam sinned because he allowed his wife to usurp his dominion and instead of leading his family, followed his wife into disobeying God.

We as men are not true leaders in our households if we are being lazy or passive and not moving in some sort of direction. If the man is not perusing something for the family, how is the wife suppose to follow?

The bible tells us that one of the roles of the wife is to be a “helper”, but if the man is sitting back passive or lazy what is there for her to help with?

I feel that this is a serious problem in our county that has been over looked for years trickling down into the next generations because our son’s are then taught this behavior through observation of the father and the cycle continues……

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